What comes up for you when you think about inconveniencing others?
For myself, I realized, I have had big issues with feeling inconvenient to others. I don't want to inconvenience people! At ALL! So many times in my life I have bent over backwards just to avoid inconveniencing others.
At the same time, I have HATED to be inconvenienced. Sound familiar? I'm guessing you can probably relate to that. That's the thing that comes up when people cut us off in traffic, or it takes ten years to make a left turn because people keep coming on the road--it's the thing that comes up when a kid needs help for the ELEVEN MILLIONTH TIME in a day and you just want to get the thing you're doing DONE and they just WON'T STOP--
How many of us are like that? Dreading to be inconvenient to others, but also dreading the inconvenIENCE of others?
At its core, emotional allergies to inconvenience are linked to feelings of scarcity: there is not enough time, there is not enough money, there is not enough physical or emotional energy. It all comes down to feelings of "not enough." Either in ourselves--like WE don't have enough time, money, energy to handle whatever is inconvenient to us--or in others, like we are convinced THEY don't have enough time, money, energy, or whatever to handle US being inconvenient to them.
Hopelessness, scarcity... they go hand in hand with these emotions around inconvenience.
But we don't have to hold onto these feelings forever.
It IS okay for you to be inconvenient to others--and it is safe when YOU are inconvenienced BY others.
This session gets to the heart of feelings of despair, anger, irritation, shame, hopelessness, disgust, rejection, and more surrounding both BEING an inconvenience and being inconvenIENCED.
If you struggle with never wanting to bother people, and never wanting to be bothered, this is the session for you.
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